This book is starting to confuse me. It talks about letters here, there, and everywhere, and I do not understand who is telling me. The end I think was a mix of grandma and Oskar, but I am not sure. The letters are neat though. I like how it ends up telling the story of his grandmother. She has a neat story but I think I understand why her husband may have left her. I guess it is only an assumption, but I think maybe he left her because he was still dreaming of her sister or because she broke the rule and had a kid. If it is because she had a kid I do not think that she regrets it. If I had to choose between my child and my spouse, I would be signing divorce papers. The kid’s memories of his father are quite interesting. Who ever really thinks of the fact that moving a grain of sand is so wildly important? I am not sure many people have thought about this. I know I never have! So far this book is still good although it is confusing me. I just do not like the fact that it skips around so much.
I find this comment extremely fascinating: "If I had to choose between my child and my spouse, I would be signing divorce papers." That's a tough call. I had a tragedy in my life and lost my first husband after only 16 months of marriage. As I struggled through my grief, I read a lot about loss and all sources said the loss of a spouse was the most difficult loss---more traumatic than that of a child. I found that so strange. Researched discussed that it was because of the love between spouses that a child was created, and that was where I was in my life at the time my husband was killed. It's impossible to compare such extremely abstract concepts, I guess. Loss is difficult no matter what.
ReplyDeleteSound's like a pretty good book, can't wait to get to go see the movie. The grain of sand that is wildly important could allude to a regular human, they are just one in a sea of humans but they are unique just like everyone else.
ReplyDeleteI agree it would be difficult. I had no idea of that fact and I am sorry for your loss. I feel that a child needs someone and although the loss of a spouse would be difficult I could not deal with the fact of getting rid of a child. I could not abandon them and therefore I would keep them and not my spouse.At least my spouse would be able to care for themself.
ReplyDeleteDani, in the movie it says that Oskar might have Ausber's Syndrome witch is a form of Autism. Do you think this book seems like it's written like his mind sort of? I imagine it would be confusing because the way he would think would be confusing. I loved the movie and I think you should see it when you get done! I was amazing, and nominated for an Oscar!
ReplyDeleteThis story seems to have some stark philosophies. I mean, lots of people, mostly men, have control over the women. When you said, "I'd be signing divorce papers," showed a complete breakaway from the typical 50's household society and today's. Especially when she decided, or was forced to, have a child.
ReplyDeleteHowever, these are just assupmtions because I have not even read the book.